Review: Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? (And Other Concerns) by Mindy Kaling

Tuesday, October 20, 2015

Can Mindy Kaling be my best friend now? I now strive to be like Mindy Kaling.

Title: Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? (And Other Concerns)
Author: Mindy Kaling
Publisher: Three Rivers Press
Date of Publication: September 18, 2012

Mindy Kaling has lived many lives: the obedient child of immigrant professionals, a timid chubster afraid of her own bike, a Ben Affleck–impersonating Off-Broadway performer and playwright, and, finally, a comedy writer and actress prone to starting fights with her friends and coworkers with the sentence “Can I just say one last thing about this, and then I swear I’ll shut up about it?”

Perhaps you want to know what Mindy thinks makes a great best friend (someone who will fill your prescription in the middle of the night), or what makes a great guy (one who is aware of all elderly people in any room at any time and acts accordingly), or what is the perfect amount of fame (so famous you can never get convicted of murder in a court of law), or how to maintain a trim figure (you will not find that information in these pages). If so, you’ve come to the right book, mostly!

In Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me?, Mindy invites readers on a tour of her life and her unscientific observations on romance, friendship, and Hollywood, with several conveniently placed stopping points for you to run errands and make phone calls. Mindy Kaling really is just a Girl Next Door—not so much literally anywhere in the continental United States, but definitely if you live in India or Sri Lanka.

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My Rating: 4 out of 5 stars

I'm part of the global blog tour for Why Not Me?, Mindy Kaling's latest novel. I know I need not read this book for that but it just felt appropriate to read her first book first. Besides, I got super sad one day so I decided to splurge on a book and I chose this. AND I'M GLAD I DID!

Admittedly, I haven't watched The Mindy Project although I've been planning to for the longest time. I've only watched the first season of The Office and I wasn't yet obsessed with it at that point. But after finishing this book, all I wanted was to get Mindy Kaling as my best friend. Or for me to be a part of her posse. I want to bask in the glory that is her humor and insights. I wanna gobble up all things Mindy Kaling and to finally get on watching The Mindy Project.

Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? is composed of essays, some autobiographical, some observational. All funny. I found myself chuckling and even full-on busting my gut ALL THE TIME while I read this book. It certainly fulfilled its purpose of making me happy. Not only did I laugh my ass off, I now have a new idol in Mindy Kaling. I wanna be like her, all hilarious, kind, insightful, hardworking, and confident.

I especially loved her childhood stories because I can totally imagine all the embarrassing details vividly. I'm at a point in my life where I can laugh about my childhood and high school, and even college, embarrassments. I love how Mindy just owns her chubbiness. (For the record, I don't even think she's chubby now!) That essay resonated with me so well because I'm perpetually chubby-fluctuating-to-fat-all-the-time. I want to lose weight and maybe not find it difficult to buy clothes but I also don't care that much. I love my body.

Her rights and responsibilities of a best friend essay was so on point and sweet and I was so touched by it. I couldn't help but nod and think of my own best friend. I also reveled in her anecdotes about Steve Carell and Amy Poehler and her stories of being a useless intern because she was too busy fangirling over Conan O'Brien. I can COMPLETELY relate to Mindy and especially to teen Mindy. With her lack of athleticism and hate for it, her weird love for her parents, and all that. Gah, Mindy.

Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? is the kind of book I can foresee myself re-reading and re-reading. It gives the reader a look into the life of Mindy Kaling, from her childhood to her teen years to her jobless phase in New York and to finally the Mindy Kaling that we know now, while making the reader laugh along the way. I'm so excited to read Why Not Me? after this. And I will forever be reading whatever Mindy writes.

About Mindy Kaling

Mindy Kaling lives in rural New Hampshire and does not own a TV.


  1. I love Mindy Kaling and The Mindy Project and The Office! She's a very interesting person and I love what she does, she's very inspiring! I am looking forward on reading her books x

    1. Since you're already a fan, you'll love this one, Trisha! Now, I need to get myself some more Mindy fix!


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